Uncover your true
sexuality
“Mind-blowing! Was really worth the money.”
Michelle de Vries
Life’s f*cking short. Stop wondering.
If any of these sound like you, you're probably not living in alignment with your true sexuality...
X Your boyfriend/husband ticks all the boxes yet you feel like something’s missing
X You mentally check out or ‘go through the motions’ in the bedroom
X You want men to want you, but you’re not entirely sure you’ve ever wanted a man
X You’ve kissed or slept with other women when drunk
X You don’t get excited imagining being with a man forever...
Five years ago, I was where you are now.
I had a boyfriend who ticked all the boxes, but I felt... bored? Empty? Unsatisfied? I couldn’t put my finger on it, but something was missing.
Then I discovered – to my own surprise – I was (am!) a lesbian, and EVERYTHING CHANGED. I’m now having the kind of whole-body pleasure, deeply connected love and inner peace I used to think only existed in movies and the love I always dreamed of (women just love different...and better!).
After sharing my story publicly and being flooded with messages from women asking for advice on understanding their own sexuality and realising there wasn’t a reliable resource to send them to, I decided to create Authentic Attraction. It’s the practical guide I WISH existed when I was figuring myself out.
What’s inside the guide...
Break free from needing men’s validation + “boy craziness”
Are you “boy crazy”, or are you simply addicted to male validation because of your social conditioning? Do you feel attracted to men, or do you just want men to find you attractive? Once you see the ways straight culture has distorted your idea of who you’re attracted to, you WON’T be able to unsee it.
Discover your TRUE sexuality (spoiler alert: you’re gayer than you think, babe)
Stop staring at the ceiling at night feeling dead inside, asking yourself, “Is this as good as it gets??” and take the research-backed quiz that’s helped hundreds of women unlock their true sexuality and start creating lives they’re excited about.
Unleash your hidden inner h*rny girl
Learn the difference between mechanical and genuine arousal, and why you might not be as ‘turned on’ with men as you think you are + uncover psychological hacks you can use to tell if a woman is just complimenting you because she wants to know where you got your pants, or because she’s trying to get into them.
What women are saying...
Claire Adamson
“I loved it so much. It’s definitely reality-shifting. Hugely thought provoking! My mind was truly blown.”
Michelle de Vries
“This guide is really an awakening. The exercises are valuable to do and help you find yourself. Mind-blowing! Was really worth the money!”
Ashley Campbell
"To anyone considering it, I'm here to say...GET THE BOOK!!! It is amazing! It was extremely eye opening.”
Emily Haynes
“Thank you so much for writing Authentic Attraction, it has given me hope in finding the right woman for me.”
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FAQs
Give me the TLDR on Authentic Attraction.
Will it help me figure out whether I’m gay or bi?
Yes. Whether you’re curious or questioning, Authentic Attraction has been designed to help you uncover your true sexuality. By the time you finish the guide, you will know your sexual identity with total certainty. (So prepare yourself!)
Do I need to be queer or bicurious to find it helpful?
You don’t have to be queer to enjoy this guide; it’s for anyone who wants to unlearn comphet (which negatively impacts straight women and non-binary people, too) better understand their sexuality, stop performing pleasure in the bedroom and connect with their most authentic self.
Is it a physical book or a digital book?
Authentic Attraction is an e-guide, which means you’ll receive it instantly, as soon as you complete checkout. Just look for your order receipt in your inbox, it contains a link to download your copy.
Can I have a sneak peak?
Sure! There’s immersive activities and quizzes included as you read on, designed to walk you through the process of unpacking comphet and understanding your true sexuality. And everything inside, including the sexuality spectrum quiz, is research-backed. Here’s a lil teaser:
When will I receive it?
Can’t I just get this information online for free?
Actually, no. The main reason I created Authentic Attraction was because there weren’t any reliable, well-researched resources to send women to when they asked me for tools to understand their own sexuality.
I share as much free education as I can across my socials, but unfortunately it’s not possible to guide people properly through the self-exploration activities and sexuality quiz included in Authentic Attraction.
Why should I trust you with the job of understanding my sexuality?
I know a thing or two about sexuality, besides going through the experience of unpacking my own. I’ve spent the last decade researching and writing about the science of pleasure + sexuality in my job as a sex columnist and educator. My sex columns are some of the most read in the world and I’ve amassed an audience of a million followers across my socials where I share queer sex education + dating and flirting advice that regularly goes viral, for good reason. 😉
I'm having trouble accessing my order. What do I do?
Email: nadia@nadiabokody.com
Why I do what I do...
My job has given me the privilege of going behind many velvet ropes to taboo places including porn sets, swingers parties, brothels and BDSM dungeons.
And it’s provided me with a kind of All-Access Security Pass to information usually kept hush-hush; from interviews with hundreds of everyday women about their sex lives, to ground-breaking research on the science of sexuality.
More importantly, it’s given me the platform to share these insights and transform a lot of women’s lives. I count Kellie among those women. She approached me with her partner Lisa at Sydney World Pride a few years ago; a moment that remains a career highlight.
Kellie introduced herself by saying, “I know you don’t know me, but I know you”, then went on to tell me how reading my work had given her the courage to leave her decade-long marriage to a man and come out as a lesbian in her 40s, which led her to find Lisa.
When she finished, Lisa chimed in with a huge smile on her face, “Also big thanks from me. I’d never have met my soulmate if it wasn’t for you!” (I’M NOT CRYING, YOU’RE CRYING 😭)
Kellie’s story continues to remind me it’s never too late to start living the life you deserve.✨
